Ok guys here's and update.. we believe it to be a pelvic floor issue.. Gonna try excersises as many of you have mentioned.. the only time there is an issue is if pelvic muscles are used to much.. as in sex to often.. urologist said to start back up at 50mgs twice a week. I've elected to start at 40mgs twice a week to start.. I'm only looking to muster up the energy to get back to the gym. I've thought about 25mgs 3 times a week thinking my body will process it better but I really don't know. I've got a physical next week so I can go back to
defy as I've been away from them to long and they want updated info.. I'm gonna try low dose and see how it goes and if after a few weeks all is good I'll go back to
defy..