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I don't want to send the thread on a tangent, but I appreciate what you're saying so I'll address it.If the reason for diminished sexual desire and function stems from something in childhood, why would you not want to understand the reason and exorcise it from your life? A healthy sex life or love life is also a reflection of being emotionally healthy.
My situation isn't too bad. I'm not sexually-charged in general. For instance, I get nothing out of porn and don't have spontaneous erections at all. And if I had the most beautiful woman placed in front of me, legs wide open, I would not be aroused. This was a problem when I was single and had chances for one-night stands. But whenever I've been in a relationship (including now, being married), I can get into sex mode when I want to, especially having viagra and cialis available, but it takes some meditation and concentration.
I wish it was better, but I know that for many it is far worse. So it's sometimes a real question in my mind - just how important is sex. I think getting past my blockage would be great, but trying too hard to do so could lead to frustration and depress me, thereby making my life worse.
If I had a magic bullet to fix me, I would do it. But reinforcing the idea that I need a better sex life to be happy by spending the money, time, and effort on fixing me seems like it could be disastrous.