Have to lower my Testosterone dosage

[themud]

I empathize though. My wife and I use to have great sex, but it was only a couple of times a month. Not even close to what I wanted. After 15 years of marriage she appologized. Now I can get it almost any time I want, but they are in the form of a quickie. The psychological effect makes me feel bad sometimes so I usually only go for it a couple of times per week. The great sex is maybe one time per month.

With TRT it is very difficult to handle when you are waking up almost every morning with wood you haven't had in years.

I am redpill, so at times I do not feel bad and do it nightly. It's almost like she prefers nightly because the more frequent we do it, the more she kind of gets more pleasure out of it. I just take them as a gift. The best way is to not look at her and get her from behind and look down at her body. The look of "get it over with" is not as apparent this way.

 

[themud]

Married 23 years!

 

[Will Brink]

Some of us don't want half our shit taken, so we deal with it.

ding ding WINNER

BTDT and still worth it. Any many who gets married today without a pre nup is insane. I'd never get married again (fool me once and all that...) but if i did, it would be with a pre nup in a state that honored them and my divorce was cheap compared to others I know. I was with same gal for 10+ years, but state i was in did not have common law marriage, another BS law to trap men into slavery. Anyway gents, I understand we do what we have to do so just me. I have some buddies in similar positions. For me, I can only say if they are not going to take care of my needs, I will find someone who will. Your mileage may vary.

 

[madman]

Early on, your libido is awakened from a long slumber and you feel differently. Mentally, you over react a bit and your libido feels insane. Over time, while it remains high, it becomes more manageable. You will adjust on your own. The wife, however, is another story. She needs to realize that she has an opportunity to get her husband of yesteryear back. Have you explained it to her? Does she even seem interested? If she doesn't, then there's something seriously off with her libido or your relationship with her.

i live in New England, and like everyone else here, am a Patriots fan. Bill Belichick often talks about the team's need to be good in "all three phases of the game - offense, defense, and special teams." I have explained it to my wife , and she understands, that a man wants a wife good at all three phases of the game as a wife:

Living Room- she's good with friends, family, and can entertain guests. Friends and family like her, she's attractive, engaging, and never embarrasses you. You're proud to be seen with her.

Kitchen- She is good at the chores that are traditionally female. She can cook, but she doesn't have to be gourmet. She keeps the house clean enough and can care for a family and children if you both agree you want them. She can be counted on to be a solid partner, regardless of how you both define family.

Bedroom- Simply put, she rocks your world, and you her's, as often as you both want and need it. This is as important as the other two. She keeps herself reasonably fit, or at least as fit as she can. She should be fun, exciting, and playful in the bedroom. Sex with her is a great time.

I'm no sexist, I know it is a partnership. You better be good in all phases too, these also apply to a husband. If you are good in the three areas, then you have a right to expect she is as well. If you can honestly say you are good in all three, then have a very honest talk about what you need. Do you stay fit? Is your body attractive to her? Are you kind and loving to her, considerate of her needs? Are you a good partner and father if you have kids? If the answer is yes, then she should not be denying you sex. If she's not interested then she needs to have a discussion with her doctor.

As as many have said, you have the opportunity through TRT and pde5s to enjoy sex as good as you both have ever had. Remember those days? You can get it back. As my wife puts it, " You have the testosterone levels of a 20 year old, why wouldn't I want more sex?"

Not every ones libido remains high on trt let alone if he decides to lower his dose to 70mg/week highly doubtful he will experiences on going benefits from trt. If one is making the decision to start therapy and shut down their hpta most need a minimum of 100mg/week to reach descent test levels. As far as the significant other even if a womans hormones are healthy it does not guarantee she will have a high sex drive like her partner. Libido is complex women tend to think more with the head between their shoulders whereas us men think with our helmet.