Stugotsv10
New Member
So I would not call myself "dominant" per say but surely not submissive.
So I been with my girl for 5 years, she was mis treated by ex's sooo I try to make up for that, I spoil her, do everything for her humanly possible shes a great girl and deserves every bit of it.
BUT.. in that accommodating ive felt maybe I have become a little simp ish, shes passed comments like "just take the lead" type thing. example going out to eat, I want to get her what shes wants (im selfless like that lol) so I say "what do you feel like" so thats not taking the lead... but what if I wanna go somewhere she has no interest in lol
How do I find a happy medium? I wanna do for her, I wanna spoil her, I Wanna cater to her but I also wanna take the lead and as the call "dominant" but never cross the line to bring up old feelings of how she WAS treated either so I need to walk a fine line!!!! what do you all suggest?
So I been with my girl for 5 years, she was mis treated by ex's sooo I try to make up for that, I spoil her, do everything for her humanly possible shes a great girl and deserves every bit of it.
BUT.. in that accommodating ive felt maybe I have become a little simp ish, shes passed comments like "just take the lead" type thing. example going out to eat, I want to get her what shes wants (im selfless like that lol) so I say "what do you feel like" so thats not taking the lead... but what if I wanna go somewhere she has no interest in lol
How do I find a happy medium? I wanna do for her, I wanna spoil her, I Wanna cater to her but I also wanna take the lead and as the call "dominant" but never cross the line to bring up old feelings of how she WAS treated either so I need to walk a fine line!!!! what do you all suggest?
